You may have heard of attachment style in relationships and believe that you are either Anxious or Avoidant. But what if like me you experience both or neither?
Secure Attachment is when you feel safe together and apart.
When being close doesn't affect your sense of self and being apart doesn't affect your sense of self.
Both anxious and avoidant types struggle with feeling safe in relationships.
If you have experienced any sort of trauma it is likely that you don't feel safe in relationship and you may have a dominant attachment style of Anxious or Avoidant.
Both have (often unconscious) strategies for dealing with the feelings that intimacy brings up.
Anxious attachment seeks comfort via connection and Avoidant attachment seeks comfort via disconnection.
Anxious attachment doesn't know how to feel safe without the closeness of another and Avoidant attachment doesn't feel safe while being close to another.
Attachment style and behavioural response is determined by our...
“Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person, they are almost indistinguishable.”
― David W. Augsburger
I am the daughter of a psychotherapist.
When I was younger I would help my dad with his registration submission for the UKCP (UK Council for psychotherapy); a rigorous process set by the professional standards authority.
Doing so meant submitting case studies, proof of supervision, and continued professional development as well as meeting in depth qualification criteria.
The process made me incredibly respectful of the therapeutic container and the support required to properly hold therapeutic space for clients.
My father wasn’t just a psychotherapist though, both he and my mum came home with a vast range of holistic therapies and practices and at a young age my thirst for self actualisation became unquenchable..
My education in the wellness, holistic health and personal growth...
Mediaeval Alchemists sought to turn lead into gold, to find the philosopher's stone, the elixir of life and their magnum opus.
In more recent times, the idea of “inner-alchemy” refers to the spiritual process a person goes through in order to transform their lower-mind, or “base-consciousness” of conditioned or mundane thinking into more purified, expanded-consciousness.
When I speak of Alchemy I am talking about inner alchemy. Carl Jung referred to it as individuation. I call it energetic, emotional, spiritual Alchemy or self actualisation.
Spiritual Alchemy is an ancient philosophy that uses the metaphor of transforming metals into gold for attaining 'spiritual enlightenment'.
In my work and in every aspect of my life I use alchemical processes to distil, refine, purify, remove stagnancy, and...
Hundreds of thousands of years ago, before the rise of the Church and Patriarchy, both men and women were valued and respected equally.
God or Source or The Creator wasn't yet ingrained in our consciousness as being an old white dude.
Women were teachers, healers, mothers, and guides and they were respected for what they uniquely brought to their communities. They taught of the mysteries and creation of life. The innately feminine gifts of nurturing, receptivity, intuition, and being in tune with emotions, seasons and cycles were seen as powerful and valuable.
Some of these women specialised in herbalism, or numerology, or palmistry, or astrology and held space for other women in sacred circle and there were many temple arts, where a higher connection between the Divine and earthly beings was revered and nurtured.
The Priestess was a spiritual leader and guide, sharing ritual, leading ceremony and offering counsel.
The Priestess walked the bridge between the seen and unseen worlds....
Every month I write a new age, (Aquarian age) Advice Column for Soulacy Magazine.
I thought I'd share a couple of the questions and their answers so you can see the type of thing I get asked and how I answer...
This is a great question. First off, there is no ‘right’ answer to this. Although we live in a time when everyone seems to be the expert on everyone else, the only real expert on you, is you and there is no shortcut to understanding...
According to The American psychoanalyst Gerald Schoenwolf emotional contagion is “a process in which a person or group influences the emotions or behaviour of another person or group through the conscious or unconscious induction of emotion states and behaviour attitudes.”
Have you ever noticed that moods or emotions are contagious?
Emotional contagion has been linked to empathy as it is the tendency to feel and express emotions similar to and influenced by those of others.
Many of my clients identify as empathic. Many of them notice that after they have spent time with me working on their mindset, shifting their consciousness, perception or perspective, it can be hard to stay in an emotionally high vibe place.
After raising their vibration, they go and spend time with their Debbie Downer friends, colleagues or family and end up feeling despondent or negative again.
This is perfectly normal, in fact one could say that it is a scientific phenomenon.
The truth is that the reason you aren’t living the life of your dreams is because of a great big laundry list of excuses, most of which fall into one of four camps:
Let's imagine that you want to leave your boring job, or your unstimulating relationship, or start your own photography business. Or maybe you want to sell your art , retrain as a teacher, or help people conquer their...
“You can’t be more than the personal self image you hold of yourself at any time”
T Harv Eker
Self love is often presented as bubble baths and rose petals, pedicures and massages at day spas while wearing fluffy robes.
These are of course lovely things that someone who loves themselves might absolutely do, but doing these things won’t in and of itself lead to self love.
In fact self-love is achieved through developing self confidence and raising self esteem.
In our initial chats many of the people I speak to tell me that if they just felt more confident, or if they could just get more confidence – that they would make more money, be more successful in their businesses, feel more satisfied in their relationships and like themselves more.
But here’s the thing, liking yourself does not come as a result of ‘being confident.’
Choosing to develop confidence allows you to learn & choose who you are and incrementally become...
This article is part three of three in a series of blogs exploring the intersection between science and spirituality, focusing specifically on the brain and now brains...
On one of my jaunts down an internet rabbit hole, following my curiosity and intuition, I stumbled upon mbraining, and I instantly knew I needed to find out more. Within hours of discovering the art and science of multiple brain integration I had signed up to do the mBit coach training.
mBraining, developed by Grant Soosalu and Marvin Oka coaches you in aligning your multiple brains for...
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I am always evolving and while I post on social media daily, if I have something that I don't want you to miss, I'll email...
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